What I continue to tell themselves(her daughter) is that they have to walk their own walk, you know, they cannot define themselves by looking at each other, or looking at me, or their dad. They have to take the time to get to know themselves, give themselves a moment to figure out who they want to be in the world, not who they think I want them to be, not what the rest of the world says about them, but to really think about how they want to shape their lives and how they want to move in this world. So I don’t want them measuring themselves by external influences. And for young girls, that is hard to do.
It was hard when it was with just cable TV when you’re watching all the images and in music videos, it’s, I don’t know, it’s exponentially difficult with social media when you’re comparing yourself to everybody on social media.
So I constantly have to remind them that they have to live in their own skin, and that takes time too. And I try to make sure they understand that unfolding of understanding who you are, it is a journey of becoming, you don’t know it all in your 20s.
Oprah: How did you do that in the White House, where you have access to everything and everybody in the world, I think it’s difficult for people, no matter where you are in your trajectory, you want to do have a better life than your parents, you want your children to live comfortably everybody does, but how do you not spoil children when they have access for everything? Michelle Obama: It was easy for us, you know, because we don’t think they deserve it.
歐普拉: 你們在白宮要怎麼教育孩子，當她們擁有最豐富的資源，能認識世界上最有影響力的人。我想無論是誰，都希望能過比父母好的生活，也希望孩子的生活比自己更好。(身為總統的女兒)擁有一切資源的情況下，你如何做才不寵壞她們呢? 蜜雪兒歐巴馬: 這個問題簡單，因為我和我先生(歐巴馬)覺得這生活不是她們應得的呀。
We didn’t just show up in the White House, I’m Michelle from the south side of Chicago with a little bitty house. I got nice clothes, jewelry now, but my mother made my clothes, you know, I mean we were raised with, that’s enough, you know, you’d be grateful for what you have, you don’t look at the next thing, you’d be happy with what you have, and that’s how we work in the White House, that didn’t change because we moved to a different house, you know the house didn’t define us, it’s the values that defines us.